Joy Over Perfection

The holidays seem so magical and filled with wonder when we’re younger; yet as we get older, we realize what goes into making them feel that way! Amid all the social events and activities, we can feel stretched on time, patience, finances and our general mental capacity. It’s important to set your expectations for the holiday season, taking note of how to make it a beautiful and enjoyable time for you and your family, however that may look! Expectations will be different for everyone, so try to avoid comparing yourself to those around you. Try taking a break from social media and focus on being present with your loved ones.

Ask yourself what you want out of this holiday season. What would make it fun and fulfilling for you and your family? Is it simplicity? Time with family? A special experience? Assess what is most important so you know where to focus your time.

Many people sleep less, eat more and neglect their healthier routines as they try to fit everything into a short time span. Prioritizing often means having to say no to things that may not be important to you. You might want to prioritize your family’s traditions rather than attending big events. Continue to ask yourself what is most important to you!

The holidays often require something from all of us. Assess what you are willing and able to give. How can you enjoy the things you look forward to every year and not run yourself ragged? For example, consider thinking outside the box when it comes to holiday gifts. Instead of buying for every single person in your extended family, you can draw names and focus on gifting for one family member.

Delegation can be key in managing holiday expectations as well. Don’t try to do everything yourself. Get the whole family involved where you can—maybe encouraging them to make gift labels while you wrap or showing them how to make the holiday treats you work so hard on. You can make a fun family memory in the process.

Despite what you see or hear, nobody’s holiday season is going to be perfect. There will be some less-than-ideal moments, frustrating conversations at the dinner table and maybe a temper tantrum or two. Try these mindfulness tips to help you reframe difficult moments when they come.

Instead of attempting to make everything perfect, don’t forget to see the joy around you. This could be the smile on your child’s face when they see the Christmas lights, the excitement of the first snowfall or listening to the holiday songs you love. The holidays can be joyful when you focus on what’s most important!